tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1759228390927287296.post2076796077060401709..comments2023-09-02T13:51:48.018+01:00Comments on Our Autism Journey: Guilt.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04445463602475419531noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1759228390927287296.post-65023296534555377132012-07-17T21:07:14.827+01:002012-07-17T21:07:14.827+01:00Hi Gem, I think guilt is the one thing nobody tell...Hi Gem, I think guilt is the one thing nobody tells you about before the baby. I always feel guilty about one thing or another, I never feel like I give the kids enough of my time, ditto for the housework, ditto the business. It's like an ongoing juggling act. I think you are doing a great job with balancing everything and you have a list- at least that's a place to start! God Gem I daren't list my guilts- maybe I should, it would be a good place to reflect. I think you should do a post of 7 things that you feel that you are doing very well. I am sure there are many more than 7. Antonia xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1759228390927287296.post-79097517252459731002012-07-17T16:01:09.720+01:002012-07-17T16:01:09.720+01:00Guilt is normal - just don't let it overwhelm ...Guilt is normal - just don't let it overwhelm you. Try and take some time out and some respite (I saw Johns comments and your response above - GOOD).<br /><br />Re: the sensory retreat - you can get very small 'tents' which don't take up much space in a room and can become a little cave to go into - I've seen them used by children with and without sensory issues. If you can borrow one and see if River takes to it - so much the better than going out and buying one but I think there as cheap as chips.<br /><br />Love and hugs<br /><br />MARTYN<br />XAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1759228390927287296.post-46128986141305921322012-07-14T15:46:38.297+01:002012-07-14T15:46:38.297+01:00So much stress for someone who has already achieve...So much stress for someone who has already achieved so much. You've already done the best for him by getting him diagnosed so early. Most people dont and cant manage that so hopefully it will pay off. <br /><br /> You did give me some ideas though and I'm buying this http://www.tesco.com/direct/seattle-open-storage-cube-oak-effect/207-2847.prd?skuId=207-2847&pageLevel=<br /><br /> With these to go in http://www.tesco.com/direct/seattle-kids-canvas-drawer-set-2-blue/212-8600.prd?recommendationId=dd823d6e-5531-47fb-aed5-91d2b29dfbe8.0&skuId=212-8600 <br /><br /> And these from amazon http://www.amazon.co.uk/First-Makaton-Symbols-Signs-Complete/dp/1907864121/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1342276956&sr=1-1 <br /><br /> Hope you're time out gives you break.Michelle Bennetthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04544327078068464430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1759228390927287296.post-6857300451994486952012-07-13T11:52:36.276+01:002012-07-13T11:52:36.276+01:00Thanks Amy, that's really kind XxThanks Amy, that's really kind XxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04445463602475419531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1759228390927287296.post-15117847927852863212012-07-13T11:52:08.994+01:002012-07-13T11:52:08.994+01:00Thanks John, you're right.
Tim's parents a...Thanks John, you're right.<br />Tim's parents are looking after River tomorrow morning for the first time whilst Tim and I go on a coffee date to Costa & mooch around the shops!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04445463602475419531noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1759228390927287296.post-73530890442702987892012-07-13T10:17:54.252+01:002012-07-13T10:17:54.252+01:00As a parent I think guilt is part of the package. ...As a parent I think guilt is part of the package. However, you don't need to feel guilty about those things. You've not got them done because you've been looking after River, not because you've been lazy. & on top of everything you have your own business, & you do need time to just relax (or collapse in a heap on the sofa if you're anything like me).<br />Maybe set yourself one goal a week that you do when Tim is about to help. Like this week try & get the water table sorted.<br />You're doing a good job, remember that Missy! You should cut yourself some slack.Amynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1759228390927287296.post-70965041408925544952012-07-13T03:49:50.793+01:002012-07-13T03:49:50.793+01:00Gem, you can't torture yourself about all this...Gem, you can't torture yourself about all this stuff - you need to think of yourself. This sounds harsh, I know, but if you and Tim burn yourselves out - what then for River? You need some YOU time and you need it NOW. Get help, get respite and take a step back from this total immersion before it's too late.JohnHenryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10954681082197874611noreply@blogger.com